the #1 lesson of 2014

I don’t know about you, but to me 2014 felt pretty wild. Sometimes wild in a great way – and sometimes wild in a pretty terrible way. There are definitely experiences from this year that I never (ever ever) want to repeat again. But there were also so many beautiful moments – saying our vows on a mountaintop; watching breathtaking sunsets on a Thai beach; watching tv with my bestie or having coffee with my sister in law and knowing that “home” is just 5 minutes away from them; adventuring with my little brother; growing my yoga practice; cozy date nights with my husband; watching our nephew go from crawling to walking – I could go on and on. So yeah… 2014, you have been so bad and oh so good.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned this year its that control is an illusion. I imagine I’ll continue re-learning this lesson over and over again, but it definitely hit home in 2014. We can plan our butts off, account for every contingency, have plans A through Z ready to go – but there are no guarantees. We only have so much control over what happens in the world and in our lives. That’s not to say we shouldn’t work hard or make plans or have goals or try to be a positive force in the world – that these things don’t matter – they most definitely do. It just means that when it really comes down to it, we can’t see the future and we just don’t know what’s in store tomorrow, next month, or next year.

We can’t always control what happens to us – the only thing we can truly control is how we handle it. Trust me, as a type A planner and constant list maker, this isn’t always easy to remember. I struggle with it every single day. Our default mode as humans is to want to control every aspect of our own lives. It’s totally normal. But as I’ve learned and repeatedly mentioned in 2014 – life is made up of uncertainties and struggles mixed with beauty and joy. The best thing we can do to live the most peaceful and fulfilling life possible is to become comfortable with that fact. Here’s to 2015 – may it more often be beautiful than not.



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